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Top tips for parents: What to do if your child is being bullied

To mark Children's Mental Health Week, school nursing expert Trudy Cowan discusses the impact bullying has on young people and how it can be tackled.

9 February 2017

It's simple... with good mental health, children and young people do better in every way.

They are happier in their families, find it easier to learn, do better at school, fulfil their potential and enjoy friendships and new experiences. Good mental health is as important as good physical health and needs to be everyone's business.

To have good mental health, children need love, security and understanding from those who look after them. However, it's not easy for children and young people to grow up in today's complex world. They face pressures from family, friends, school, technology and changing values.

Poor mental health can be triggered by many circumstances: separation, bereavement, disability, illness and bullying. The effects of bullying are often underestimated. They can leave children and young people feeling frightened and isolated with no voice.


Bullying can take many forms

Top tips for parents on what to do if your child is being bullied

1. Listen to your child

It's very important that you listen to your child and support them without offering opinions or judgement.

You may experience your own feelings of fear, anger and sympathy. Harness these and be led by how your child (dependent upon age and severity of the bullying) wants this to be dealt with.

2. Tell the teacher

If your child is being bullied at school, their teacher needs to be informed. All schools have to have a policy on bullying behaviour and many offer forms of support such as counsellors, mentors and listeners.

3. Ask your child's school to take steps to address the bullies' behaviour and protect your child

Schools have a responsibility to make it clear that everyone should be respected and children and young people have a right not to be bullied. Schools should have an ethos for children that it is not wrong to "tell".

4. Seek external help

Use the internet, visit a library, speak to other parents and contact bullying charities, such as Bullying UK, to gain as much advice and help as possible.


Outside of school, cyber-bullying is on the increase and most young people will experience it or see it at some time. In a recent national bullying survey, 56% of young people said they have seen others be bullied online and 42% have felt unsafe online. Cyber bullying can happen 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and it can go viral very fast

Children's mental health is so important and we should be doing everything we can for our children and young people to ensure they thrive in every way.

This week is Children's Mental Health Week 2017 (February 6-12). Charity Place2Be is supporting the week with the focus of "spreading a little kindness".

Therefore, with this in mind, whether you are a parent, carer, teacher, or anybody who comes into contact with children and young people, the next time they come to you, please:

  1. Show you care! A kind word, a smile can sometimes make all the difference
  2. Listen to them and truly hear their voices
  3. Try to understand them without passing judgement
  4. Give them a break, it's tough growing up!
  5. Accept and embrace that all children are different and brilliant in their own unique ways, are worthy and should be loved for who they are

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