Relationship problems
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An unexpected event or a major life change can trigger relationship problems. Ill health, addictions, financial problems or something as simple as changes in interests can put pressure on a relationship.
Whatever the problem the first step towards dealing with it is to acknowledge it.
All relationships require constant attention and maintenance if they are to survive and communication is at the heart of all relationships. If you are concerned about your relationship the best place to start is usually to have a conversation with your partner. You may wish to avoid this because you are worried that it may make things worse or that it may confirm your worst fears. But in most cases leaving problems to fester will only make them worse.
When introducing the subject try to avoid placing blame and accept that you both have a role in what has gone wrong and how it can be put right.
Be willing to compromise but also be clear about what your own needs are - there is no point in pretending you can put up with something that you know is going to continue to be a problem for you.
If you feel you cannot talk to your partner, for whatever reason, you may find it helpful to talk to a counsellor. You can find details about our counselling service here. If you decide that it is time to end your relationship you may find the information here useful.
You can also find more advice on the following websites
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