Better Mother Poem - The Birth Project - University of Derby

Better Mother Poem

If I was a Better Mother I would bake my own bread.
There would always be homemade biscuits in the tin,
And not only that, I would bake with my children.

If I was a Better Mother I would puree only organic food for the baby,
I would buy groceries without packaging,
And not only that, I would grow my own vegetables.

If I was a Better Mother I would cook a hearty family meal every day.
The house would always be clean,
And not only that, I would enjoy doing it.

OR If I was a Better Mother I wouldn’t care if the house wasn’t clean,
It would be a sign of how fun and creative I am.
We would paint all the time and build things out of plasticine.

If I was a Better Mother I would never be anxious about what was the right thing to do.
I would always be able to make decisions with conviction,
And I would never take my anger out on Daddy.

If I was a Better Mother my children would sleep all night.
I would have time put makeup on,
And I would never be too tired.

If I was a Better Mother I wouldn’t give a hoot about togging up and going out in the rain.
My children wouldn’t watch so much TV,
And they would have loads of fresh air.

If I was a Better Mother MY children wouldn’t have tantrums.
They would eat olives, and raw vegetables dipped in humus.
And I would never feed my baby formula milk.

OR If I was a Better Mother I wouldn’t care if I did or I didn’t because I would be carefree.

If I was a Better Mother I would surely have more time for myself.
I would go out on ‘girls’ nights’,
And I wouldn’t feel guilty.

If I was a Better Mother I would be ‘in the moment’.
I would be able to compartmentalise work, housework and ‘quality time’ with family.

If I was a Better Mother I wouldn’t compare myself with other mums
Or secretly compare my children with other children.

If I was a Better Mother whatever I have or have not amounted to would be of no consequence,
Because being a mother would be enough.

If I was a Better Mother I would be someone else.

Lucie Dowling

Project Contact

This project is being directed by Professor Susan Hogan

Professor Susan Hogan
E: S.Hogan@derby.ac.uk

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